Daniel Darling, author, pastor, speaker / Posts tagged "maturity"

It’s a Big Boy Game

On Sunday I enjoyed a rare privilege: since it was Father's Day, Angela and the kids allowed me to kick back and watch the NBA finals with the San Antonio Spurs and the Miami Heat. We don't have cable, so I was able to watch the game on broadcast--ABC 7 being one of the few channels that comes over on my flimsy HD antennae. Since my team, the Chicago Bulls are out of the playoffs (next year, though . . .), I have no dog in this fight. For about two years after Lebron "took his talents to South Beach" I nurtured a healthy "sports hate" for the Miami Heat. (Sports hate is different than actual hate. It's actually okay as a Christian to do this. I can't quote you Scripture and verse on this or a wise church father, but trust me, it's okay.) After Lebron and Miami won the...

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Three Kinds of Christians Who Should Always Keep Their Cool

I was struck this week as I studied 1 Peter 4:7-11 as part of our Exiles series at church. I was struck particularly by this phrase: "Be self-controlled and sober-minded." (v 4 ESV). There are differing ways translators have translated this. HCSB says "Be serious and disciplined." NASB: "of sound judgement and sober spirit." NLT: "Be earnest and disciplined." KJV: "Be sober and watch." You get the idea. Christians are to be level-headed. Sober. Balanced. Mature. Of sound judgement. Wise. In control. These virtues should characterize our life, both in our speech, in our online engagement, in our beliefs. And yet there are times, many times, when virtues like this, such as balance, sound judgement, and sobriety are looked at by some as a lack of courage. Or we excuse them with things like, "I'm just speaking my mind." Or we post half-baked conspiracy theories online or fire them off via...

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Why Words Matter

Not many of you should become teachers, my brothers, for you know that we who teach will be judged with greater strictness. For we all stumble in many ways. And if anyone does not stumble in what he says, he is a perfect man, able also to bridle his whole body. James 3:1-2 (ESV)  We may be the most talkative generation in history. I have no way of measuring that, really. But consider the ways we can communicate with words: text, Tweets, Facebook posts, Google Plus, email, blog, comments, cell phones. That’s not even counting this really old-fashioned way of communicating called “face to face conversation.” Most of the time we don’t weigh the value of our words. We throw out words like they are disposable. We post things online or text things before we consider the consequences of what we are saying. But we would be wise to consider the words...

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The Opportunity I Won’t Get Back

It was my first year in college and I had an important job interview with a Ramada Inn close to our house. I really wanted this job as desk clerk. I thought dressing up in a suit and handing out keys was pretty cool. I had an eleven o'clock morning meeting, which meant I had to drive six hours back to Chicago from downstate Illinois on a trip with a few friends of mine. I had the timing worked out perfectly. I would check out of my hotel very early and drive back to Chicago and have thirty minutes to spare. But the night before, I stayed up way too late. You know what happened, right? The next morning I overslept. I rushed back and was miraculously (thanks to a led foot and the absence of state troopers) able to pull into the driveway of the hotel by 11:10. I felt pretty good. I’m...

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