Daniel Darling, author, pastor, speaker / Posts tagged "family"

Your Family is Not a Problem to Be Solved

 In a symposium published by The Guardian, novelist Richard Ford was asked to deliver his best advice to aspiring writers. Forgive me for quibbling with the wisdom of a celebrated muse, but I was offended by his first two pieces of advice: 1) Marry somebody you love and who thinks you being a writer’s a good idea; 2) Don’t have children. In Ford’s view, marriage is only useful insomuch as it furthers personal aims and children are optional nuisances to be avoided, if possible. Marriage is merely instrumental instead of aspirational. I’m not sure if Ford’s advice was meant as tongue-in-cheek, but it reflects the utilitarian and the flaccid attitude toward the family in our time. As if the rigors of family life are an impediment to selfish career aims. It would be easy to dismiss this kind of logic as the liberal worldview of the elite—and in some measure it does...

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5 Ways Adult Children Can Honor Their Parents

How should an adult grown (presumably married, but not necessarily) child relate to his or her parents? There is a tension in Scripture between obeying the Scripture which says to "leave and cleave" in forming your own adult identity and family (Genesis 2:24; Matthew 19:5) and obeying the Scripture which says to "honor your father and mother" (Exodus 20:12; Ephesians 6:2). Every family has it's own rhythm. Every family has its own share of circumstances, from abusive to permissive to annoying, etc. So how one adult child handles his or her parents isn't necessarily a blueprint for another. Still, the Scriptures seem to indicate an intentional approach to the way we love our parents as adults. This is a journey I've travelled in the last few years. I seem to have endured the typical cycle: being cared for and nurtured by my parents as a child, distancing and forming my own identity...

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Ravioli Parenting

As a kid, I loved eating ravioli and as an adult I still like eating it. It's one of my favorite meals. But as a Dad, ravioli has become my enemy. Why? Because it may be the single messiest meal for kids. You are pretty much guaranteed that if you give your sweet little infant a bowl of ravioli, they will end up with an epic sauce and noodle disaster. So I hate ravioli. My wife, however, doesn't seem to be so bothered by it. Every once in a while she will say to me, "Dan, should we have ravioli for dinner tonight?" I always look at her funny when she says this, as if she said, "Hey, how about we go ahead and sign ourselves up for an extra hour of dinner cleanup? Wouldn't that be fun?" Angela and I often see things like ravioli differently. I choose the path of...

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Understanding the Hispanic Culture

I was pleased to listen to this broadcast (embedded below) on Focus on the Family, featuring Samuel Rodriguez, President of National Hispanic Leadership Conference, a Hispanic Evangelical organization. He currently serves on the Board of Directors of some of America’s leading Evangelical organizations such as: Gordon Conwell Theological Seminary, National Association of Evangelicals, and Christianity Today. What I appreciated about this interview was Rodriguez explanation of the Hispanic culture's emphasis on the family. Currently there are 50 million Hispanics in America, 16-18 million of whom are evangelical Christians. Rodriguez explained that in their culture, church and family are vital. I think this is important for believers to understand. Some feel threatened by the rise of the Hispanic minority in the United States, but this vast migration of peoples is actually helping to restore a good emphasis on faith and family. I think pastors and church leaders would be wise to listen...

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