Daniel Darling, author, pastor, speaker / Posts tagged "parenting"

Don’t let your kids say this phrase

There is a phrase in our vocabulary that nobody has to teach us to say. It's a phrase kids learn very quickly in childhood. And it's a phrase you should ban in your household: "That's not fair." It sounds innocent enough. Everybody wants life to be fair, right? But this is an insidious phrase, revealing a sin so bankrupt it goes back to the very beginning, back to the Fall of Man. It's essentially what Eve was told by the serpent. "You're getting a raw deal. You're entitled to more. God is holding out on you." If you read Paul's account of the Fall in Romans, you'll discover that it was this attitude--ingratitude and entitlement--that lit the match of sin, plunging Creation into darkness. And it's a surefire way to test your own heart, to see where the idols are. Maybe it seems a bit melodramatic to bring all of this up to my...

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Five Ways We Do Family Worship

I'm a big believer in family worship. I believe God has clearly called parents to intentionally teach their children the ways of God. But for some, the idea of family worship is a bit scary. Either they don't know how to do it or they think it means three hours every night of exegetical study through Leviticus. But family worship doesn't have to be scary or boring or a drudgery. It can be simple. Here are five ways we do it: 1) Around the Table. Sometimes we do it at dinner, other times we do it at breakfast (especially if I'm home for those meals). We usually use some kind of tool. In the past we've used the Jesus StoryBook Bible by Sally Lloyd Jones, a book every Christian parent should own (in my opinion). Right now we are using an excellent book, Proverbs for Kids. This is a terrific book...

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Five Common Mistakes Christian Parents Make

My wife and I are in the throes of parenting and are surrounded, in our church and among friends, with other parents in the throes of parenting. So my parenting radar is hot. I'm learning, growing, repenting everyday as I ask the Lord to make me a faithful dad. It's often easier to learn how to get better at parenting by observing and owning our mistakes. So here is a list of five tendencies Christian parents have. I hope it helps you think through this journey: 1) We overexpose our kids to the culture. The Bible doesn't use the term, "culture", but there is a very similar word, "world." This is a loose definition of the prevailing thinking in a given society. Typically the values of the culture run counter to the way of Christ. Not always. Sometimes a culture is shaped by Christian influence. Today, we parents should be cautious in what we...

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Raising Little Pharisees

Prior to moving to our existing neighborhood, we lived in a small townhouse about 20 miles west. We lived there for 8 years and had great relationships with our neighbors. There was something about the physical closeness of our homes that fostered a closeness among the neighbors. I had thought that neighborliness was a dead art until I moved here. We enjoyed some rich, deep, wonderful relationships with a very diverse group of neighbors. We raised our kids together, borrowed each other's baking goods, and experienced tragedy together. So when we moved it was bittersweet. We had to leave people we had genuinely come to love. Despite this sense of community, few of our neighbors were what you'd consider committed evangelical Christians. And so as our children grew, we had to navigate the tension of being "in this world" but not "of this world." There were contexts we avoided--particularly some parties that we...

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