Daniel Darling, author, pastor, speaker / Posts tagged "gratitude"

The One Thing Your Team Needs . . . That Only You Can Give

"Nobody has ever told me that before," she said to me. Her tired voice and tired posture betrayed years of faithful ministry work that had gone unnoticed and unappreciated. It was my first week on the job as a Senior Pastor and I had much to learn about shepherding God's people. But one thing I carried with me from childhood, something my mother taught me repeatedly, is the value of a simple "thank you" to those who work with and for you. So I said thank you to this church lady for volunteering every week for one of our key ministry programs. Leaders of all types have one thing to give to their people that nobody else can give: encouragement. By this I don't mean flattery that withholds useful criticism and coaching. I mean a simple affirmation of their gifts and their contributions. Even if you're managing people who make a...

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Shouldn’t Gratitude Should Be Our First Language?

Yeah, yeah, of course we're supposed to be thankful on Thanksgiving. But it occurs to me that we're not very good at this. By we, I don't mean the editorial "we" by which I'm pointing the finger at the rest of Americans for being ungrateful while I ignore my own ingratitude. By we I don't mean the "Church" by which I think the problem is the rest of those ungrateful brothers and sisters in the Lord while I silently pretend I'm not full of unhealthy entitlement. No, I'm talking about me and my own ingratitude. And of all people, shouldn't it be me that's the most thankful? Whose first language is one of thanksgiving? After all, it's me who was sovereignly chosen to salvation, who was brought from death to life by the mercy of God at the cross. It's me who is the recipient of God's resurrection power, giving me...

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10 Things I’m Thankful for in 2011

Today is Thanksgiving. This year (2011) I have much to be thankful for. I could fill pages. But I distilled them down to ten: Nine years of marriage to a beautiful and godly woman, Angela who has faithfully stood with me in ministry, trains our children in the Lord every day, and enjoys watching crime dramas with me. Four beautiful children, Grace, Daniel, Emma, and the latest edition, Lily. They are all beautiful gifts from God. I'm humbled to be their father. And I'm finally learning how to change diapers without passing out. A relationship with God through Christ. The mystery of God's love expressed in Jesus continues to amaze me, that He loved me enough to sacrifice His son, purchasing my redemption, satisfying His wrath, and displaying His glory. Parents who loved me enough to introduce me to Jesus, take me to church regularly, and be there when so many kids grow up...

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Resetting our Gratitude Meter

Though the fig tree should not blossom,
nor fruit be on the vines,
the produce of the olive fail
and the fields yield no food,
the flock be cut off from the fold
and there be no herd in the stalls,
yet I will rejoice in the LORD;
I will take joy in the God of my salvation.

Habakkuk 3:17-18

What are you thankful for? We gather, every year at this time, to reflect on the blessings of God over the past year. But in most families, Thanksgiving is less about real gratitude and me about stuffing your face, watching football, and hanging with the family. Some actually dread Thanksgiving, because they’re forced to sit in a room with people they really don’t enjoy.
Now I’m all in favor of the food and the football. But this year, let’s make Thanksgiving about giving and about thanks. This year, more than any, might force us to dig deeper. For many, it will mark a year since they’ve had employment .For others, Thanksgiving will bring another reminder that they haven’t found that significant other. And there are those couples who have to face the family questions of why they still can’t have children.
For many, 2010 was a year marked by pain. So how do we summon the gratitude?