Daniel Darling, author, pastor, speaker / Posts tagged "5 Things"

Five Common Mistakes Christian Parents Make

My wife and I are in the throes of parenting and are surrounded, in our church and among friends, with other parents in the throes of parenting. So my parenting radar is hot. I'm learning, growing, repenting everyday as I ask the Lord to make me a faithful dad. It's often easier to learn how to get better at parenting by observing and owning our mistakes. So here is a list of five tendencies Christian parents have. I hope it helps you think through this journey: 1) We overexpose our kids to the culture. The Bible doesn't use the term, "culture", but there is a very similar word, "world." This is a loose definition of the prevailing thinking in a given society. Typically the values of the culture run counter to the way of Christ. Not always. Sometimes a culture is shaped by Christian influence. Today, we parents should be cautious in what we...

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5 Things Every Son Needs to Hear From His Dad

By God's good grace, I'm the father of four beautiful children: three girls and one boy. Last week I wrote about the 5 things a daughter must hear from her dad. Today I want to talk about fathers and sons. Just as there is something wonderful about being the father of daughters, there is something wonderful about being the father of a son. In my house, Daniel Jr (4) and I are outmatched four-to-one by girls, so we sort of stick together to make sure everything is not painted pink, some football gets watched on a regular basis, and that we watch as many superhero movies as Barbie movies. Seriously though, the job of raising a son is a noble and important task. It is a job many men abdicate, leading to what is now a full-blown crisis in our country: a crisis of fatherhood. Look up the statistics when you have...

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5 Things I’ve Learned in Ten Years of Marriage

Last month, on November 22nd, Angela and I celebrated our tenth wedding anniversary. I'm not an expert on marriage and by some standards I'm still a rookie. But I have learned a few things in these ten wonderful years. Here they are, in no certain order: 1) I'm not naturally a good husband. Before I tied the knot, I was convinced I'd be a great husband. Some lucky girl would be praising the Lord daily that she nabbed me. How wrong I was, really. Rather, I was the blessed one, having snared a women as patient and loving as my wife Angela. What I've learned is that I am not naturally a good husband. I have to really, really work at it. Naturally I'm selfish, proud, and tend to see things only my way. To be a good husband I must do two things: I must work at loving my wife intentionally...

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5 Leadership Lessons I’ve Learned in 4 Years

I'm nearing my fourth years as Senior Pastor at Gages Lake Bible Church, which means I'm just beginning. I'm still learning. John Maxwell need not fear. I won't be dethroning him from the position of Leadership Guru anytime soon. However, being on the job has taught me a few things about leadership, especially for young guys. Some of these lessons I've learned the hard way, others through the wise mentoring of older men. Here are five: 1) Young Leaders Must Resist the "push-off" model of ministry.  In their book, Sifted, Larry Osborne, Francis Chan, and Wayne Cordeiro talk about the tendency of young leaders to get their leadership energy by "pushing off" the perceived mistakes of other ministry models. They use the example of an Olympic Swimmer, who gains forward thrust by pushing off the pool wall. For leaders, it could be their legalistic, fundamentalist background that they despise, so every decision is...

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