Three Pitfalls for Young Evangelical Leaders

I'm young. I'm an evangelical. And I'm a leader (at least of my family, my church, and in some disconnected sense, to my small audience of readers). It's exciting to be a leader, but it's also sobering and carries many responsibilities. As I interact and read some of the work of the evangelicals in my generation I'm noticing some tendencies. I notice them in my own leadership and in the leadership of others. Here are the three that concern me most: 1) The tendency to caricature those with whom we disagree. Tim Keller has a saying that goes something like this, "The way to charitably argue with someone is to present their argument in the best possible light." I'm not sure I got that quote right, but it's close. The point is this. If you disagree with someone, its best to disagree with the actual substance of their argument, not a straw...

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What We Really Should Be Teaching Our Kids

Last Thursday, during the Thanksgiving meal we hosted at our house, my son, Daniel Jr (age 4) had an epic meltdown over a superheros costume. My brother, Tim, was the recipient of much of this. After dealing with Daniel's tantrum, we both went our way, sharing times with our family members, eating more pie, and watching football. About 30 minutes later, something wonderful happened. My son, Daniel voluntarily walked up to my brother, Tim and said, "Uncle Tim, I'm sorry for my attitude before. Will you forgive me?" Nobody forced Daniel to do this. He just did it. For me, it was a proud moment as a father. Because it tells me that Daniel is learning one of most important lessons in life: How to apologize when you have wronged someone. It seems to me that Christian parenting can often be so caught up in behavior modification that we forget to instill in...

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Celebrating 10 Great Years

Ten years ago, today, I held hands and looked into the eyes of a beautiful girl from Texas named Angela Sullivan.  I didn't know much, but I knew I was in love with this girl. I fell in love with her beauty, her vivacious, sweet spirit, her love for the Lord and her zest for life. I thought I knew what marriages would be like, but I didn't have a clue, really. It's been ten years, ten of the best, richest, most satisfying years of my life. This girl I married, Angela, has enriched my life in so many ways. She's taught me how to be a good husband. She's pushed me to be a good father. She's given me four beautiful children. We've been through some gut-wrenching trials together. We've endured the loss of loved ones. We've been betrayed by close and trusted friends. We've hurt so deeply we didn't know...

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Twenty Random Things I’m Thankful For in 2012

I love Thanksgiving. Here are twenty random things in no certain order that I'm thankful for: 1)     I'm thankful for Angela, my beautiful wife of ten years (tomorrow is my anniversary). I'm the luckiest man alive. But more on that tomorrow. 2)    I'm thankful for my four children, Grace, Daniel, Emma, Lily. Each is so uniquely different and yet so precious. 3)    I’m thankful for my family: parents who raised me in the Lord and have always loved me, my brother Tim, my sister Laura and how they have enriched my life. 4)    I’m thankful for Billy Graham, whose ministry helped bring my father to Christ. 5)    I'm thankful for the Church. I'm thankful for my church. I'm thankful to serve as a pastor. 6)    I'm thankful to live in the 21st Century with technology like my iPhone, my Macbook, Twitter, GPS, and other such things. I don't pine to live in some other era like the...

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